But a good kick in the arse often puts ideas in the right place and ha s never killed anyone. Did you know that in the US, 19 states still authorize physical punishments in schools? I kind of think spanking is wrong. This is something French and Americans have in common. In France, we don’t like the government telling us how to run our families. So France won’t follow the lead of Scandinavia and 48 other countries. Then the Conseil Constitutionnel (aka the Supreme Court) blocked the law. It certainly should not be a tool that is needed under ordinary circumstances.On December 22, 2016, France passed an “ Equality and Citizenship” bill that outlaws “cruel, degrading, and/or humiliating treatment of children by their parents.” It makes spanking a civil offense and not a criminal one, but effectively bans corporal punishment from the parenting oeuvre. If, on a rare occasion it does you will both agree that it is necessary for the child’s sake (certainly not as an expression of your own frustration or anger). Meanwhile, work on yourselves to develop a shared bond of parenting and help each other develop the strength and devotion that God expects from those to whom He entrusts new souls.Īs your skills grow, you may find that the issue of spanking never arises. While it can mean a physical implement used to discipline, it can also means leadership by teaching and guiding-discipline in the purest sense of the word.Īt this point, we would suggest that you focus on how you will merge the traits of compassion (softness, warmth, affection) that a newborn needs and add to that the firmness and setting of limits that the baby will require you to add on down the road.
The Hebrew word used in Proverbs 13:24 that is usually translated as rod and may have led to the saying, “Spare the rod and spoil the child,” does not necessarily have the connotation of spanking in Hebrew. You have a window before your child imitates you to step onto the path of becoming the best people you can be.
You will, hopefully, be parents whose children follow in your path, hence the most important people the two of you should be focused on now are yourselves. Having said that, perhaps the two of you can look at spanking as one tool on a spectrum called ‘discipline.’ We encourage you to note the root of that word -disciple. It is wonderful that the two of you see the need for being on the same page and having clear, guiding rules by which to run your family. First of all, may God shower blessings on you and your wife for recognizing that raising children needs much thought and discussion even before the child is born.
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